Human Design is unconditional and fearless

Human Design is the ultimate tool of differentiation. Differentiation is the ability to hang on to our unique selves and what we need, even when those around us, including those we love, disagree. Differentiation is navigating our own boat and allowing others around us to navigate theirs. If we find ourselves trying to climb in others' boats (control how they feel or act, or blame them for how we feel), it’s important to retreat to the important work below our own deck. In the end, differentiation is a gentle push for us to be all we can be, and occasionally grow up and out of obsolete ways of being. When we attempt to differentiate, and talk to each other about our needs, it’s important to do so with two intentions.

Unconditional (for self and others)
We honor the other person and what they want from us because we care about them, AND we assess and honor our ability to deliver at the moment. Remember not everything must be done NOW.

“I see you xxxxxxxx (need something from me). I want to be able to be there for you . . .

AND

. . . at this moment I am not able to xxxxxxxx. I really need to xxxxxxxx. In order to honor both of us, how about xxxxxxxxx (an alternative that honors both needs). Will that work for you?” And then of course you negotiate for a win-win.

Fearless
on behalf of our own needs, too often submerged because of conditioning and habit (often guilt or peacekeeping).